Thursday, January 27, 2011

Guilty!

I am sitting in a little dark room. The only window has little lines in it and on the other side is courtroom 4C. This is where the action is in the Gaston County Courthouse, if you ask me.
I'm actually thrilled to be in this little room. This room has comfortable chairs. This room has my computer. And I'm free to use my computer and phone in this room. This room is quiet except the noise you can hear from the hallway and the opening and closing of the door to the men's bathroom.
The room I'm looking at through the window, however, is a different story.
That room is all formal. Everything is made of wood - including the pews that get sooooo uncomfortable after a number of hours let alone several days.
In that room men wear suits and everyone calls each other Ms. So And So and Mr. This And That. Deputies shoot you the evil eye if you misbehave and don't hesitate to take your phone away if it makes a noise.
I, of course, know the rules. So instead I typically am greeted by the deputies with a "good morning, Diane" or perhaps a wink. I like this.
In the courtroom, I feel a bit like a sick voyeur. I know I'm there to do my job, but still. I watch what goes on between the attorneys, the judge, the jurors and the defendant. I also glance at members of the audience and scribble in my notebook from time to time.
Every once in a while I react... often unintentionally. But stunning things are said from that witness stand.
I'm not really a voyeur in life. I've found that I often miss things that other people catch.
For instance, the friendliest convenience store owner in the world - who has sadly vanished from Lincolnton who I suspect is living in Charlotte with his wife and many children. I saw him multiple times a week for months and never realized he was missing fingers. How does that happen? (Really, how did he lose those fingers? And how did I not notice when he made change and handed me my items.)
Thankfully, I think I'm observant when it counts. I try to read my friends' emotions and react accordingly. I pay attention to what my daughter does and says. And I work hard.
And court. It just happens to be one of my favorite parts of my job. :)

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Just one of those days

You know what I think is worse than having one of those days? Having one of those days despite your intent to not have one.
I woke up this morning ready for the day. I had already picked out my clothes and packed my workout clothes. Once dressed, I realized that my pre-picked out outfit didn't really match at all. So I had to go through two others to get it right.
I made it out the door with my lunch, vitamins, computer, workout gear, purse, tea and a bag of trash to put at the curb. I thought, "Man, I've got it together today!"
Despite getting up early and leaving early, I only got to work about 15 minutes earlier than usual - thanks back-to-work-after-a-three-day-weekend traffic (and by three-day-weekend, I mean for everyone else, not me).
Work is OK today, I've just been in a real dry spell for stories. But it's the personal crap that keeps f-ing up my day.
Bank account issues.
Marital drama.
Kid melodrama.
I'm still trying to dig up stories, do phone interviews and be all professional, but sometimes I struggle to keep my own life separate. I can certainly see why moms of multiple children have stayed home rather than worked throughout the ages. I love work. I love my work. But it's a juggling act.
Anyhoo, I wanted to spend a few minutes venting silently at my desk after a scrumptious baked potato with butter and sour cream. Oh! Did I mention that I gained a pound even though I worked out like a beast last night? Grrrrrrrrrrr.
I don't care. I'm still going to cycling class tonight. This day be damned!
One more thing. This day made me think of the old Monica song. I'm putting a portion of the lyrics here and intend to youtube it so I can listen and feel that the young Monica identifies with the not-so-young me.

It's just one of those days that a girl goes through
When I'm angry inside,
Don't wanna take it out on you.
Just one of them things.
Don't take it personal.
I just wanna be all alone
And I you think I treat you wrong.
Don't take it personal
Baby, baby, baby, baby, baby.
Don't take it personal.

I sit and think about everything we do,
And I find myself in misery and that ain't cool.
Hey now I really wanna be with you the whole way through.
But the way you make me feel inside leaves me confused.
As I swing back mood to mood it's not because of you.
I never want you to be insecure,
So won't you understand that I'm only in love, youre the only I need.
I be there for you when you need me boy so baby don't you leave.

It's just one of those days
That a girl goes through
When I'm angry inside,
Don't wanna take it out on you.
It's just one of them things
Don't take it personal.
I just wanna be all alone
And I you think I treat you wrong.
It's just one of those days
That a girl goes through
When I'm angry inside,
I don't wanna take it out on you
It's just one of them things
Don't take it personal.
I just wanna be all alone
And I you think I treat you wrong.
Don't take it personal

Monday, January 17, 2011

Fortunate one

Ever feel like the fortunate ones?
It's easy for me to fall into a self induced pity party about things just as much as the next gal. But then you get those glimpses of other people's lives that make you feel fortunate.
As a news reporter I get those a lot. As a news reporter in a bit of a rut, I haven't had a glimpse lately. But as a driver, I saw one last week that for some reason stuck out to me.
I was driving into work. I was stopped on the exit ramp getting onto New Hope when I decided to look around at my surroundings. I spotted this guy walking down the street. Now mind you it was about 30 degrees tops. Ice still on the ground from the weather. He's wearing a pair of blue scrubs, has a bandaged arm and is carrying paperwork.
I tried to think of what this guy's circumstance must be. He clearly wasn't a hospital employee so I'm guessing something terrible happened to his clothes that made him need a donated set of scrubs.
What happened to his arm?
Are there prescriptions in that stack of what I assume is hospital paperwork?
He sure needs a coat... and a ride.
No, I didn't turn right instead of left and give him a ride. I'm not one of those people. I'm one of these people. One who wonders what that guy's deal is. One who feels bad for the scrubs-wearing guy but doesn't do anything to actually assist him. One who continues to think about that guy practically a week later. And one who feels fortunate to think that if something tragic happened tomorrow, I would have clothes and a ride home from the hospital.

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Skinny Minnie

Diets can be excruciating. I should know. I'm an expert on dieting.
"But you have always been overweight, Diane," you might say if you were being brutally honest with me.
And I would say, "EXACTLY, my rude friend."
But yeah. Those of us who have always battled with our weight know a lot about dieting. I've lost hundreds of pounds over the course of 30 years.
The most fun I ever had dieting was several years back when I worked at the Lincolnton paper. That's right. I said fun and dieting in the same sentence. I've decided that it was my support system that made it so much more enjoyable.
I would go to Weight Watchers meetings with my mom each week and get support from my friends/coworkers five days a week or more. Me and the work gals all subscribed to different dieting techniques, but we ate lunch together and attended work functions together which made it so much easier to be accountable and make the right decisions. Hell, we even split a Snickers bar three ways once!
Since striking out into another county for a job, I haven't had the same level of hands-on support. I know my friends and family still want me to succeed, but they're not watching me, or working out with me, or going to meetings with me.
I gained lots of weight over the past several years. And now I'm losing it. Again.
Since surgery, I've gotten lots of supportive feedback but it still feels like a journey I'm mostly on alone. And that's OK. There are times it's not bad to be independent. I'd have to say I'm a fan of independence.
I still really miss the days with all my girlfriends at the old paper, but everyone has moved on and we're all in different places. I'm thrilled that we're all still friends and I hope to be one skinny minnie by the next time we all reunite (which is feeling like a date in May when a certain someone is getting hitched!).

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Not quite the queen

It's been quite an eventful past few days.
Saturday was the celebration of my husband's birth. This was a big to-do (a) because he was turning 40 and (b) because I planned a surprise party.
So I've decided I'm not the queen of the surprise party. I kind of thought I was. But I was mistaken.
I planned this big shindig that included a giant cake, a lengthy guest list, balloons, gallons of chili and the list goes on. The plan also included a moment where I tricked the husband into going to the Parish House that was secretly filled with family and friends all of whom would jump in the air and yell SURPRISE when he walked in the door.
This did not happen.
The secret celebration was extremely hard to pull off. The husband who never plans anything decided to plan his own birthday celebration. He invited our friends to a night on the town - I had already invited said-friends to the real celebration. I had to go around sending messages and explaining the confusion. My busy husband also called ahead to make dinner reservations that I would have to go back and cancel.
But the final bust came when there was a SNAFU reserving the Parish House. The night before the big party I found out that we didn't actually have the building reserved. (I found this out after I had already decorated the joint and locked myself out of the building in the process.)
In the end, I called in a favor, got a room at the Cultural Center, let the husband in on the secret and had a fabulous time.
Sunday we celebrated again because it was the actual birthday. We had tasty seafood and waited for the snow to fall.
It fell.
And fell.
And fell.
Then the ice fell. And froze and froze and froze.
I spent two days working from home in sweatpants and on the couch. It was glorious.
But I also spent that time eating and moving as little as possible.
So today I'm all dressed up... trying to find some stories to write... and excited about going out with one of my girlfriends tonight. And I am totallllyyy thankful we never lost power.
Amen.